Attitude of Gratitude

Grayton Beach on a gloomy, foggy late Fall day.

Once again, the winds of Fate have carried me from one town to another.  This time, the vertiginous journey took me from Kansas City, Missouri to Santa Rosa Beach, Florida.  A new town, a new home, a new start...again.  I don't know how long Fate will allow us to settle in this sunny pocket of the world before snatching us back up and carrying us somewhere new, so I am determined to make the most of my time here on the Emerald Coast.  To that end, I decided to approach these changes with an Attitude of Gratitude.

Part of my Attitude of Gratitude Plan includes taking daily beach walks to marvel at the ocean, to breathe, to just be.  Since photography is one of my passions, I also decided to take one beach shot per day and post them on Instagram and Facebook.  

Someone recently said to me, "I am so envious. You have the perfect life.  I wish I could travel, live near the beach, and get a book deal."

My response?

Envy is a corrosive emotion that eats away at your ability to be happy - happy with your blessings & happy for the blessings of others. 

I know this, because a few years ago, I envied a dear friend's publishing career. Although I worked hard to conceal my envy from her, it was there, below the surface, corroding my contentment, my ability to focus on my own career, and my genuine happiness for her success. Now, I see how incredibly difficult it is to manage a writing career and life demands. Her life wasn't perfect, she worked hard to maintain her blessings and CHOSE to focus on the positives more than the negatives.

My life isn't perfect, but I am blessed. I CHOOSE to focus on and project my deep gratitude over my blessings. I post daily beach walk photos as a way to express my JOY and GRATITUDE, not to make others envious.

On the outside, I am a woman with many blessings, but the internal mechanisms to maintain these blessings are crazy complex. I have my trials - Lord knows, I have serious, sometimes crippling, trials - but I prefer to focus on and SHARE my joy.  Just because I don't share my trials or negative thoughts, doesn't mean I don't have them.  I keep them to myself because I believe inflicting others with your negativity is as offensive as inflicting them with body odor or bad breath.  It's just rude.  

I hope you all have a blessed day. Now, what are you going to do today to bring yourselves some joy and/or spread joy to others?  Post it on Facebook or in the comments below. Let's focus on our blessings and spread the HAPPY

I love to watch waves roll onto the shore.  I could sit all day,
photographing the subtle play of light and the
magnificence of motion.

Wave watching with my furry soul mate, Molly the Schnoodle.

Beached kayaks waiting for summer.

Empty beach chairs on Redfish Beach on a late fall day.

Rolling waves at the beach at Watercolor.

I Have a Cottage in Ireland

My wanderings have taken me from Toledo to Tokyo, Pittsburgh to Paris, Vacaville to Vienna, Charleston to Cologne.  I have marveled at the wonders of the world, made my home in exotic locales, and forged bonds with people of many nations. 
Of all my journeys, none has resonated with me as deeply as my recent trip to Ireland.  I made a soul connection with the place and her people.  This should probably come as no surprise to those who know me well.  After all, I have an abundance of Irish DNA surging through my veins.  The connection is cellular.  I'm also an enthusiastic storyteller and conversationalist (a nice way of saying I have the gift for gab). 
Still, I was surprised by my immediate affection for Ireland.  I had only been there a few days when I began daydreaming about buying a cottage in Kenmare and opening up a bookstore/tea shop on her quaint, colorful main street.  I envisioned spending my days chatting with customers about Wilde, Joyce and Yeats, and evenings in a boisterous pub listening to trad music and sipping Bulmer's.  When the south winds rattled my windows, I would hunker down beneath my thatched roof and write novels.  Maybe I would even write my memoir.  My opening line:  I have a cottage in Ireland at the head of Kenmare Bay.  (It worked for Meryl Streep in Out of Africa.  "I had a farm in Africa at the foot of the Ngong Hills.")
There's usually one spectacular tour, museum, or site that attaches itself to my memory of a journey; one thing that makes a place truly unique.  In Ireland, there were two things: her people and her coastline.  I will write about her warm, friendly, beautiful people another time.  Today, I would like to share my memories of her spectacular coasts.
Better writers than myself have tried to describe Ireland's majestic land and seascape.  I'll spare you the poetic waxing and instead share some of my photographs with you.  Unless otherwise stipulated, these photos were taken on the Dingle Peninsula.

The Emerald Wave
I stood on an abandoned boat launch, watching as the sun burst through the clouds and transformed the forbidding, churning sea into a magical body of luminescent water.  I could have stood there all day, watching the play of light on water and listening to the roar of the waves as they crashed to the shore.

Ocean's Kiss
Have you ever stood ankle deep in the surf just as a powerful wave rolls to the shore, sending sea spray all over your face?   I love the way the soft spray feels on my skin, like tiny kisses from the ocean.  

 The modern world is such a chaotic, cloudy place. It's easy to feel lost in the commotion of life.   I always find clarity - in my sense of purpose, my relationships, and my faith - when I stand by the sea and watch the awesomeness of nature. 

The first time I heard Amy Grant sing El-Shaddai, I was a confused teenager searching for a rock to cling to in the tumultuous sea of life.  Her pure voice and lyrics brought tears to my eyes.  When I stood on the Baera Peninsula in Ireland, I recalled her lyrics and felt the familiar sting of tears behind my eyes.  I looked at the rolling hills, ancient stones, and ageless sea, and thought about a Power so great it could bring such a landscape into existence.  I thought about the thousands of people before me who stood in the same spot, staring out at the vast world, and marveling at their insignificant role in it.

Where the Land Meets the Sea
When I asked an Irish friend my chances of encountering a banshee, selkie, or fairy, he said, "'Tis not hard to find the mystical in Ireland.  Just look for it where the land meets the sea."  

Strange Tales
The former Taoiseach of Ireland, Charles Haughey said, "Ireland is where strange tales begin and happy endings are possible."  Watching this emerald wave rolling toward the ocher hills, I imagined many strange and wonderful tales.  Tales of selkies swimming by day and then slipping out of their skins to shape shift into slender, beautiful humans by night.  A shift of the light and I imagined their sleek heads bobbing in the waves.  A gust of wind that howled and echoed in the caverns and I thought I heard their mournful cries. 
As for happy endings, I got mine the morning I met actor Colin Farrell in a little town called Sneem.  I am working on a novel, aptly titled, Finding Colin Farrell, so my serendipitous encounter with him in a hotel lobby could certainly be considered the happy ending to my magical Irish adventure. 

I stood on the edge of the cliff while the wind tried to body check me into the sea.  Any normal person would have felt a healthy dose of trepidation, but I felt strangely calm, content.  My Wellies were firmly rooted on the land of my ancestors but my heart was soaring far above the emerald waves.  After years of wandering, I was finally home.  Photo taken on the Baera Peninsula, Ireland.